tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post994567142745794668..comments2023-07-28T18:11:59.147+02:00Comments on acidicice: It feels like...acidicicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09233702169345244420noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-67775840694552822142009-02-16T20:58:00.000+02:002009-02-16T20:58:00.000+02:00oh man... i really hope you can get him to go to c...oh man... i really hope you can get him to go to counselling with you, it sounds like he needs help deciding where his priorities lie...AngelConradiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09423318903817661244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-38533525456457018452009-02-16T19:02:00.000+02:002009-02-16T19:02:00.000+02:00Forget his friends that you don't like for now. F...Forget his friends that you don't like for now. Forget everything everyone brings to this that complicate things. You don't need to be thinking about the rights and wrongs of trivial things when there's so much else on the line. I have two pieces of advice for you: the first is to think very carefully about blogging about this. There's every possibility that we're helping you to either blow off steam that could go into something constructive, or that we're not helping you by giving you advice based upon only what you, not also Rudy, says. The second piece of advice I can give you is to start listening to him - and to ask yourself how much of what he says is true. You have been together for a long time - you can come through this. But you need to do it together and you need to do it one step at a time. Start by being conciliatory with him - start by acknowledging that some of the things that he says are true. This should hopefully get him to start listening to you and what you have to say - and for this you need to decide what the most important points are. As I said, forget the trivial things. Over time, you can maybe work on these, but things are much more serious now and are at breaking point. You have to make a decision about what you want to do and it won't help you to play the victim. Think about what Rudy would say if he had his own blog - he's already given you enough to start working with. Do you think it's fair on either of you to only be getting advice on one side of things that's likely to reinforce the injustice etc that you're thinking.<BR/><BR/>I'll be thinking of you. Do what's right. And do what you have to do. You can do this. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-82837797310866533722009-02-16T17:28:00.000+02:002009-02-16T17:28:00.000+02:00and ps not taking your side when his "friends" say...and ps not taking your side when his "friends" say bad things about you is also not on and personally i think this is very mature - if he cant defend you as his wife then frankly, you deserve better - you have both been through a terrible time and need to look after each other not tear each other apart - he needs to wise up - pronto!<BR/>michAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-39725720749536265792009-02-16T15:24:00.000+02:002009-02-16T15:24:00.000+02:00You already know my thoughts... thinking of you. x...You already know my thoughts... thinking of you. xWenchyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03034000885444098456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-79618649534342805872009-02-16T11:05:00.000+02:002009-02-16T11:05:00.000+02:00acidice ((((hug)))i think he needs to go to counse...acidice ((((hug)))<BR/>i think he needs to go to counselling with you - he is not handling his emotions at all well and so is taking it out on you - you both need to support each other - you have all the hormones running around your body and the physical loss and he sounds like he cant handle the emotional grief - i do feel for you - but he needs to wise up and stop being immature - taking it out on you<BR/>mich<BR/>xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-85955419870236565812009-02-16T09:48:00.000+02:002009-02-16T09:48:00.000+02:00We have been together for almost 8 years and marri...We have been together for almost 8 years and married for almost two.<BR/><BR/>I also think the loss of our child has something to do with it, but he will never admit it. I think we should go for counselling, but he refuses. <BR/><BR/>I have no idea what to do.acidicicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09233702169345244420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-16426946844777118122009-02-16T09:44:00.000+02:002009-02-16T09:44:00.000+02:00:( that really sucks, how long have you guys been...:( that really sucks, how long have you guys been together, how old is he? losing a baby breaks up alot of marriages, always read about this. <BR/><BR/>How were things between you guys before you got pregnant, did you fight alot then? maybe you're not that compatible.... if things were good before the pregnancy then maybe you need to go back to how things were, losing a spouse is worse than losing a baby that you never got to know, maybe that needs to be put to rest, out of your guys thoughts. It's natural it would change you, maybe you did become more clingy (because you've been through such a hard shitty time its understandable) so you needed the emotional support, but it's just as hard on the guy, maybe he cant be reminded of it anymore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com