tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post1843808454351945961..comments2023-07-28T18:11:59.147+02:00Comments on acidicice: She's baaaackacidicicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09233702169345244420noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-66080586509682467202009-01-19T08:32:00.000+02:002009-01-19T08:32:00.000+02:00Hi JaneActually I can completely relate to that. I...Hi Jane<BR/><BR/>Actually I can completely relate to that. I've actually used the analogy myself. My body didn't know how to make a baby properly yet and this may have been like a 'practice run'. I totally get it.<BR/><BR/>*hugs* I seem to need one today.acidicicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09233702169345244420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-52416502140939749222009-01-19T08:29:00.000+02:002009-01-19T08:29:00.000+02:00I know what you mean about the comments... I do th...I know what you mean about the comments... I do think people just don;t know what to say in this kind of situation, and so they something, anything, and often it is not what we want to hear. I tried to remember that at least they are TRYING, and give them credit for that. Of course some people ARE just being mean, and well, there's just no excuse for that.<BR/><BR/>You will never 'get over' what happened, but it will get much easier and you;'ll reconcile it into your life and your path to where you end up. But his memory and his role in your life will stay strong and stay with you, and that's a good thing. You don't ever have to pretend he wasn't here.<BR/><BR/>My (ex) husband came up with an analogy - many people don't like it, but I understood it. But the thing is that many many many first babies don't survive. You'll be surprised how many first pregnancies don't work out for many and varied reasons. <BR/><BR/>So he said he thinks the first baby is like the first pancake you make. The first pancake is never right and never comes out properly. But that one prepares the pan so that all those that follow can be perfect. Our 'first pancakes' sacrificed themselves for our children that follow ... and yours ARE coming.<BR/><BR/>*HUGS*<BR/><BR/>(I am sorry if you find that offensive, I know many people can't relate to that)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-42314753234084355402009-01-17T08:04:00.000+02:002009-01-17T08:04:00.000+02:00Angel - a lot of women over 35 have perfectly heal...Angel - a lot of women over 35 have perfectly healthy babies...I just think that I would be strongly advised against it because of my recent medical history.<BR/><BR/>Wenchy - thanks babes. I try to give myself permission, but a lot of people have forgotten my grief, even if the pain lingers. People around me kind of expect me to be 'over it' already. I don't think people can necessarily understand unless they have been through it or have a window into my mind like my readers do. I don't share my blog at work really...too many Jubba entries ;o)acidicicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09233702169345244420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-12345787089544698962009-01-16T23:57:00.000+02:002009-01-16T23:57:00.000+02:00you are fully entitled to cry and vent and feel ha...you are fully entitled to cry and vent and feel happy and sad at the same time, something horrible happened to you!!!Wenchyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03034000885444098456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-411022230230783447.post-88478510579385916672009-01-16T19:42:00.000+02:002009-01-16T19:42:00.000+02:00ag man... i'm so sorry you have to put up with the...ag man... i'm so sorry you have to put up with the people who say those inane things! <BR/>and don't say anything about 35 being too high risk- i'm still in denial!<BR/>;)<BR/>and you're allowed to cry and have a lump in your throat!AngelConradiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09423318903817661244noreply@blogger.com